Anxiety, Life, Self-Care

You Are Not Your Anxiety

Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest taken between two deep breaths.” – Etty Hillesum

Anxiety is a bitch. Plain and simple. Anxiety is something I have dealt with, in one capacity or another, my entire life. I know I am not alone in this! I believe that some of us are born with more anxiety-prone tendencies than others and are more anxious in nature. However, I also believe that the world we live in basically promotes stress and anxiety.

If you struggle with anxiety, you are definitely not alone! It’s almost impossible to not be stressed by something or another these days. In the age of social media, the internet and instant information we are constantly being bombarded with news stories, politics, advice, and stories on a continuous loop, 24/7. The majority of stuff we see is negative and daunting. We are also watching everyone else’s highlight reel on the daily and it’s easy to go down the rabbit hole of feeling like we are not good enough, are behind in life or that somehow we don’t measure up. We may feel like we need to to do better, be better and be perfect. We may feel like we aren’t good enough.

GAH! I’m feeling anxious just talking about all of this. But my point is this: Life is hard enough without the added stress of the world we live in, plus the unrealistic expectations social media often provides. Of course we fail to meet these crazy expectations, which can easily contribute to our self esteem, stress and anxiety issues. No wonder so many people struggle with anxiety!

It’s also possible to be anxious for seemingly no reason. When you’re prone to being anxious your mind likes to find anything and everything to worry about. It’s easy to get stuck in your head and always focus on the negative. To over-think and obsess.

Anxiety is tough, but I am here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way!

You are not your anxiety! 

Anxiety is something I know all too well. I know what it feels like when your mind just won’t quit and will find anything and everything to worry about. It’s exhausting and often leaves you feeling paralyzed.

For so many years my thoughts and anxiety controlled my life. Every decision I made, every conversation I had, every plan, every thought, every day. Everything from what shampoo to use in the shower that morning to what to eat for breakfast to what clothes to wear.  I remember I used to feel anxious or upset when I realized I wasn’t worrying about something. Like I forgot what I was supposed to be worried about. And it was somehow a problem. Umm…What? How messed up is that?

  For years I tried different therapy and medications, but none of that seemed to help. In a way, I gave up. Surrendered to the fact that this was my normal. I thought it was just who I was and how I was. Me and my anxiety were one and the same. A package deal. I had no idea life could be any other way. That I could be any other way.

Then one day (per recommendation of my amazing, mama!) I went to a yoga class. She heard yoga was good for anxiety. I figured I had nothing to lose! During that yoga class it was the first time EVER that my mind was calm. My thoughts weren’t racing. I felt quiet and peaceful. I was amazed! I could barely believe it.  My curiosity was peaked and so I continued to practice regularly. I also started exploring meditation – with the same result. I learned that I am separate from my thoughts. I learned how to be present.

By incorporating yoga and mediation into my life the result was a more peaceful mind and heart. My anxiety started to ease up. My life was changing. I was changing! I finally realized that I am not my anxiety.

The tools I gained from my own practice and the shifts in my anxiety and my life are what inspired me to become a yoga teacher. I knew that if these amazing practices could help me (seemingly someone who was beyond help), then I KNEW it could help so many others. I felt called to teach with the hope that I would be able to help people learn these amazing tools to help reduce their stress and anxiety. While practice yoga or meditating can be helpful and are a huge part of what helped me — there are also so many other, simple tools I learned along the way that helped me.

Life will be stressful from time to time, or things will happen that are our of our control. That is life! There will always be the good and the bad and that’s okay. There will always be things to worry about, but there IS another way. Sometimes your anxiety feels like it’s in the driver’s seat, but there IS another way. You are not your anxiety! There are practices and tools you can use to help manage your anxiety so it no longer controls you.

I want to share these amazing tools with the world, so I created a free guide for you called ‘Being Peacefully Present: Four Ways to Calm Your Mind Right Now’. 

I am beyond excited to share this guide with you! This guide includes my four favorite tools to help reduce stress and anxiety. These are tools I use in my own life, every single day. They are simple and effective, and you can literally do them ANYWHERE!

If you are interested in receiving this FREE guide just fill out the form and it will be sent directly to your inbox!

Self-Awareness, Self-Care, Self-Love

You Are Not Your Weight

And I said to my body, softly, ‘I want to be your friend.’ It took a long breath. And replied, ‘I have been waiting my whole life for this.’  -Nayyirah Waheed


Weight and body image are things I have struggled with for as long as I can remember. I think I am safe to assume that I am not alone in this.

We live in a world that basically grooms us to hate ourselves. Everything we are exposed to and everything we watch, do and read is set up to make us feel like we aren’t good enough and that there is something wrong with us. Advertisers bank on this. It’s how they sell basically everything. An even bigger part of the problem is society’s focus on weight.

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Self-Awareness, Self-Care, Self-Love

Self-Care Promise

“I have come to believe that caring of myself is not self-indulgent. Caring for myself is an act of survival.” – Audre Lorde

“Make a promise to yourself to make her own well-being sacred.” – Unknown


As life gets busier and busier, I find myself neglecting to do certain things because I feel like I don’t have the time. There are only so many hours in the day, right? Getting up early to practice yoga or meditate most days seems impossible. Eating out or eating a frozen meal seems easier faster than cooking healthy meals. Clean my apartment? Yeah, I’ll do that later. Getting eight hours of sleep a night?  Um, yeah right. I find myself putting too many things on my plate; saying yes to things I don’t really have time for. I’m sure I’m not the only one who lets this happen. Especially when life gets busy, it’s easy to put ourselves last.

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Self-Care, Self-Love

My “Non-Negotiables”

“By changing nothing, nothing changes.” Tony Robbins

“Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” –Life’s Little Instruction Book


An assignment from my health coach was to come up with “non-negotiable” things that I am supposed to do everyday, no matter what.  The idea is to pick things that are supposed to help ground me, motivate me, bring me home, keep my calm, and support me in the best way. I LOVE this idea. It’s makes so much sense.

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Self-Awareness, Self-Care, Self-Love, Yoga

Learning to be present; how meditation changed my life!

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, not to anticipate the future, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.     – Buddha

For most of my life I’ve had a lot of issues with anxiety. My anxiety level was almost always sky high and I was worrying about something, anything, everything! It didn’t matter what it was or wasn’t. I was over-thinking, obsessing, worrying, ruminating, etc. People would say “Just don’t think about it!” , “Let it go!”, “What is worrying going to do for you?”, etc…but hearing that just made me more frustrated. More anxious. Sure, it sounds easy to let I go, but it’s not. Especially when you are the middle of it, it’s impossible to see any reason. I honestly felt kind of crazy a lot of the time.

A couple of years ago I started doing yoga regularly. I had done it before, here and there sporadically throughout my life, but I never really understood what the big deal was. My mom took me to a beginner workshop to a yoga studio by her house. The moment I walked into this building I was I knew this was somewhere special. The class was amazing and after that I started taking classes there regularly. When I was on my mat, for the time EVER, I was learned to quiet my mind. I don’t think I had ever been able to do that before. It was amazing! I was hooked. Quieting my mind off the mat though, well – that was a different story! I was still really anxious and worrying constantly.

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